Life Challenges

We're constantly faced with difficulties and challenges as we travel along life's long and winding road, but there are some ways to embrace life's challenges that will make things a lot easier for you. Whether you're struggling with difficulties at work or at home, these ways to embrace life's challenges should enable you to cope a little better. 

One of the ways to embrace life's challenges is to learn from the experience. Remember, there are no bad experiences, just lessons and tools which we can arm ourselves with in the future. We can use these to help us get better at what we do and who we are. There are certain things that we just can't control in life and when you learn to let go, things become easier to deal with. Making sure that you have time to do the things you enjoy and to look after yourself will make it easier for you to embrace the challenges that you're faced with along the way. I have an experiment I would like you to try. Bear with me. Grab a sheet of paper with writing on it and hold it at arm's length. It looks clear, doesn't it? Now bring it closer to your face until it's touching your nose. It doesn't look so clear now, does it? The writing's all fuzzy, isn't it? Well, that's what your problems are like when you're so immersed in them that you can't see any way around them. Stepping back and making time to do the things you love will help you to see around the challenges you may be facing in life.

I  love a good positive affirmation, especially in the morning. They can make you feel so empowered and ready to face the day. Use positive affirmations every day to help you feel amazing and to help you achieve your goals.Talking your problems through with someone can help you deal with life's challenges too. They say that a problem shared is a problem halved. It can be helpful to articulate a problem because once you do, it can make you see that the problem perhaps wasn't so bad after all!

Journaling is another helpful and empowering tool. Use a journal at the end of the day to write out your thoughts and feelings about what has happened in your day and to set out your goals for the days ahead.

We do it every minute of the day and without it, we wouldn't be able to do much. If someone held your nose or held your head under water, you would relish the next breath you took, wouldn't you? Next time you're feeling overwhelmed by life's challenges, breathe in deeply for a few seconds and breathe out for the same amount of time. Concentrate on your breathing and feel it as your body begins to settle and relax. Enjoy breathing. After all, it's a free gift!

Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself
-George Bernard Shaw

Giving Advice

A lot of my friends comes to me for advice on there relationship, family, life, problems in life that they are going through, And I try to put myself in there shoes and ask myself what would I do if I was in this situation that they are in. There are some things you should remember when giving someone advice. Advice can be wonderful and absolutely help you though something difficult your're going through. Probably all of us are thankful for some good advice we received at some point in our lives. But there are some tips to remember when giving advice for it to truly be helpful to someone you care about.

1. Consider If They're Open To Advice

The first thing you need to consider when giving advice is if the person is open to receiving it. If its a person that doesn't want anyone to give them suggestion, its probably better to say nothing at all. If your advice isn't welcome, its best to accept that. Otherwise, you could end up with hurt feelings even if all you really want to do was help them. If the person seems open to listening and receiving advice, that's the time to give it.

2. Offer Advice Gently

Advice offered gently usually helps the most. Sometimes others can think your're being pushy when you don't mean it to a come across that way. Giving advice in an easy way works out the best. People are more likely to listen when they receive some gentle suggestions. Think back to when you received the best advice Its was probably offered gently too :)

3. Share Personal Experience

Personal experience can be a great teacher. Sometimes pulling from that can make the best advice. Sharing lessons you’ve learned with others can help them with what they’re going through. Personal experiences always make interesting stories. I think we tend to take advice better when we know the person has taken it themselves.

4. Be Compassionate

It’s good to be compassionate when giving advice. The person who needs advice may be in an emotional place. A person can easily feel that way when they’re facing something difficult and don’t know what to do. Giving advice in a kind manner can make them feel so much better. They’ll always appreciate that from you.

5. Share Why Your Advice Will Work

Sometimes it’s good to share why your advice will work. It helps the person connect the dots. They can understand better how your advice can work for them. It helps your suggestions make more sense. They’ll be more likely to take your advice when they see your point.

6. They May Not Take It

Lastly, it’s important to remember that the person may not take your advice. It’s good to keep that in mind and not feel hurt if they choose not to take it. Everyone has the right to make their own decisions about their life, right? If they choose not to take your advice, remember that it isn't personal. It’s about them making the decision that they feel is best for them and that’s okay.

Being A Young Mother

I had my son when I was 20 year old. I have faced negative comments about me being pregnant so young. I always use to hear "You ruined your life now your pregnant" or "You can't do anything anymore now you have a child" That is not true, If you are focus on what you want in life to better yourself and your child, You can make anything happen. There are many pro's and con's of being a young mother. The definition of what constitutes a “young mother” has changed somewhat as the average age of mothers has hit 30, and being a young mother in your early twenties can naturally be quite different to being a young mother at sixteen. Many of the blessings and problems are the same though, So here are 6 pros and cons of being a young mother. ♥

1. You've Got More Energy

You can’t discuss the pros and cons of being a young mother without considering the fact that younger people naturally have higher energy levels. Mothers in their teens and early twenties will probably find it easier to physically cope with sleepless nights and running around after a lively toddler.

2. Your Body Will Repair Itself Easily

As women get older, our skin becomes less supple and everything takes longer to heal. Young skin is able to cope with the stretching better and may be less prone to stretch marks, while any scars will heal better.

3. All Your Friends are Partying

Staying in changing nappies and cleaning up sick can be hard when all your friends are out having a good time. If you’re thinking about trying for a baby and considering the advantages and disadvantages of becoming a young mother, this is definitely one thing to consider. I was never a party hard kind of person, So it doesn't bother me. I rather be at home with my child anyways than partying like crazy.

4.You'll Still Be Young When Your Kid's Have Grown Up

While you might miss out on going out while you’re young, younger mothers will naturally be younger when their children grow up and are ready to move out. While your friends are starting to deal with difficult teenagers, you’ll be regaining your independence.

5. People Judge You

People are more likely to judge young mothers but I've faced negative comments about being pregnant at 20. It’s best to just ignore people’s negative comments but some people may find criticism and disapproving looks difficult to deal with.

6. Education And Career May Be Put On Hold

If you’re considering the pros and cons of being a young mother, you need to think about the impact it could have on your education and career. Many young women drop out of school and university when they find out they are pregnant, and it can be harder to study after having children due to childcare costs. Other people of the same age will also have more work experience. My son is three years old right now about to start Pre-K and I am myself considering going back to school for something in the medical field. Never give up.

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