Monday, December 15, 2014

Giving Advice

A lot of my friends comes to me for advice on there relationship, family, life, problems in life that they are going through, And I try to put myself in there shoes and ask myself what would I do if I was in this situation that they are in. There are some things you should remember when giving someone advice. Advice can be wonderful and absolutely help you though something difficult your're going through. Probably all of us are thankful for some good advice we received at some point in our lives. But there are some tips to remember when giving advice for it to truly be helpful to someone you care about.

1. Consider If They're Open To Advice
The first thing you need to consider when giving advice is if the person is open to receiving it. If its a person that doesn't want anyone to give them suggestion, its probably better to say nothing at all. If your advice isn't welcome, its best to accept that. Otherwise, you could end up with hurt feelings even if all you really want to do was help them. If the person seems open to listening and receiving advice, that's the time to give it.

2. Offer Advice Gently
Advice offered gently usually helps the most. Sometimes others can think your're being pushy when you don't mean it to a come across that way. Giving advice in an easy way works out the best. People are more likely to listen when they receive some gentle suggestions. Think back to when you received the best advice Its was probably offered gently too :)

3. Share Personal Experience
Personal experience can be a great teacher. Sometimes pulling from that can make the best advice. Sharing lessons you’ve learned with others can help them with what they’re going through. Personal experiences always make interesting stories. I think we tend to take advice better when we know the person has taken it themselves.

4. Be Compassionate
It’s good to be compassionate when giving advice. The person who needs advice may be in an emotional place. A person can easily feel that way when they’re facing something difficult and don’t know what to do. Giving advice in a kind manner can make them feel so much better. They’ll always appreciate that from you.

5. Share Why Your Advice Will Work
Sometimes it’s good to share why your advice will work. It helps the person connect the dots. They can understand better how your advice can work for them. It helps your suggestions make more sense. They’ll be more likely to take your advice when they see your point.

6. They May Not Take It
Lastly, it’s important to remember that the person may not take your advice. It’s good to keep that in mind and not feel hurt if they choose not to take it. Everyone has the right to make their own decisions about their life, right? If they choose not to take your advice, remember that it isn't personal. It’s about them making the decision that they feel is best for them and that’s okay.

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